Today is the day after Thanksgiving, and that's got to be one of the best days of the year. It's the official start of the Christmas season, I am surrounded by exciting Thanksgiving left-overs - turkey, cranberry sauce, pumpkin pie, dinner rolls, sweet potatoes, and I have some surprisingly positive memories of this year's Thanksgiving that will be sustaining me through whatever dark times befall me in the near future.
I think we need to be clear about the importance of Thanksgiving, and I am not talking here about the culinary importance. For me, it is the premier event in which food and family intersect so strongly with one another that it is hard to keep them separate and distinct. This is not to say that I have confused my children with a turkey. I mean, rather, that while Thanksgiving is most definitely about turkey and pumpkin pie and cranberry sauce, it is just as much about the company with whom you eat it, such that memories of food at Thanksgiving cannot be separated from the memories of the people eating it.
For instance, one year my younger sisters were both living in London and I was a newly wed in Cambridge, and of course they came up for Thanksgiving. We spent the whole day making all the foods we always made at home for Thanksgiving, one of which is a dish called Yams and Apples (a yam is a sweet potato in our neck of the woods). It is a very time consuming dish and I remember my sister in my tiny apartment laboring over this big vat of yams and apples. And now whenever I make that dish, I often think of her. But it wasn't just that. It was a powerful experience - bonding together as sisters in a foreign country by practicing our own family culinary rituals, which had the deepest of meanings for us as members of that family.
And what is that meaning? Well, on the surface, Thanksgiving is about celebrating the survival of the Pilgrims during the first year after they arrived in America in 1620. We remember that they came to America because they wanted religious freedom which they could not get in England, and we are grateful that they had the courage to follow their convictions and found our country on such noble principles. That was always a very important meaning in our family. Thanksgiving is also about being thankful in general for the things that you have and the circumstances that you enjoy. But I think there is something else going on here that makes the meaning even more robust. If the ritual of Thanksgiving is about getting together with loved ones for a specific meal with a specific purpose, the meaning of Thanksgiving is embedded just as much in the meaning of those relationships with loved ones as it is in the meal itself. In other words, the meaning of Thanksgiving
is family, and, without trying in any way sound sappy, the meaning of family is love. That's why my sisters and I had to get together and make Thanksgiving dinner even when we were living in different parts of a foreign country. Practicing our family culinary ritual meant re-connecting with our family, who were so far away and who we loved so dearly.
So, with Thanksgiving now being on an equal footing with life, love and the meaning of universe, as I mother I feel it is my duty to pass on the full Thanksgiving experience, in the hopes that one day they, too will catch the vision and feel the love whenever they see a turkey or a pumpkin pie.
And that 'full' experience starts with helping out in the kitchen on Thanksgiving eve. I love the hustle and bustle in a kitchen the night before Thanksgiving or Christmas; I love it when the kids help out. Not only are they learning, but it provides us with a common experience - a foundation on which to build our relationship further. So, my three little girls helped me assemble the brine in which we would soak the turkey overnight:
And my twelve year old made the best pumpkin pie filling I've ever had:
Imogen's Best Ever Pumpkin Pie
16 ounces cooked pumpkin or butternut squash
3/4 cup sugar
1/2 tsp salt
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp ground ginger
1/8 tsp cloves
3 large eggs
12 ounces evaporated milk
Mix all ingredients together, making sure the eggs are well beaten. Pour into a waiting pastry shell (that has not been baked at all, and see below for recipe). Cook at 200C/400F for about 15 minutes, then turn down the oven to 180C/350F and cook for another 20-30 minutes. The pie is done with a skewer inserted in the middle comes out clean.
I put the teenager in charge of pastry:
But she didn't always work on the pastry. Our kitchen was filled with lots of mayhem on Thanksgiving Eve, and it wasn't because of the younger children:
Now, this year, I feared for the pastry of my pumpkin and apple pies, and not because the teenager was in charge. I have had too many bad experiences with pastry sticking to the pan, or it tasting like cardboard. So, I used a method that I learned from one of Hugh Fearnley-Whittingstall's books. Instead of rolling it out, we simply broke off bits of pastry and pressed them into the pie dish, like so:
Perfect Pastry
125 grams butter, cut into small pieces
250 grams flour
pinch salt
1 egg yolk
juice of 1/4-1/3 lemon
Rub together the butter and the flour (and salt) with your fingers, until they look like porridge oats. Mix the egg yok and lemon juice together in a small bowl, and add this mixture one tablespoon at a time until the pastry sticks together. You may need to add a tablespoon of water or so to the pastry. Break off bits of pastry and press them into a pie dish until you have covered the bottom and sides sufficiently.
My next challenge was the apple pie. I think it is actually quite hard to make a good apple pie, and I was mildly surprised to find that I had a pretty strong desire to get it right this year. I put my nine year old son in charge of getting the pastry in the pan, using the same recipe and method as we did with the pumpkin pie,
The filling was as follows:
Thanksgiving Apple Pie
800 grams Bramley apples, grated
450 grams Cox apples, cubed
145 grams white sugar
15 grams brown sugar
25 grams butter
25 grams flour
juice of 1/2 lemon
1 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tsp mixed spice
1/4 tsp cloves
freshly grated nutmeg
Put all the ingredients into a big pan over a medium heat. Stir the filling often to make sure it doesn't catch. Cook for a few minutes until the apple cubes have softened somewhat. Then pour the filling into the waiting pastry case:
For the topping, I decided to use a crumble topping:
130 grams flour
90 grams butter
2 tbsp brown sugar
2 tbsp white sugar
Rub together the flour and butter between your fingers until they look like porridge oats. Mix in the sugars. Sprinkle over the filling. Bake at 190C/375F for about 30-35 minutes, until golden brown and bubbling on top.
On Thanksgiving morning, I woke up with refreshingly little to do, but I did have to get the turkey ready. I didn't do much to it, since I had soaked it the night before, but it was beautiful when it came out of the brine:
I am paranoid about dry white turkey meat, so I take all necessary precautions to avoid that. One trick I learned from a Jamie Oliver program is to put butter directly onto the breast meat, under the skin - something my children like to freak out about when they witness me doing it:
I had more help in the kitchen on the final stretch before dinner, with the teenager actually coming into the kitchen and saying to me 'Do you need me to help you?' This was without prompting. When I recovered from going into shock, I felt the biggest sense of accomplishment - my child asked to be helpful! Funny how having children makes you appreciate the very simple things in life. Either that or it reduces your expectations for yourself and for them to something so low that any good thing that happens is a bonus. I put her to work making a topping for some broccoli in a cream cheese sauce, which was bread crumbs, butter and grated cheddar cheese:
You can imagine how good the topping tasted. She took a bite, enthused about how delicious it was, and I responded in agreement. And in that moment, there was a unity between us, a shared understanding, that is not often there as of late. Food can bridge the generation gap - temporarily, maybe, but in a way that matters. And that brings us back full circle to the meaning of Thanksgiving: it's about a common experience, about family unity, about love:
Even when your teenager does this at the table: